On the way to school one morning a few weeks ago, E stated that he wanted another baby in our family. I was quick to assure him that we won't be having any more babies. He expressed total disappointment and then asked, "Why?" I explained that when The Peach came, she completed our family. In hindsight, I have no idea why I added this: "Besides, Daddy and I made it so that I can't grow any more babies." After some silence, my ever inquisitive B says, "I am wondering, how does the baby get in your belly to grow in the first place?" Oh boy. How many parents are left speechless by this question? There is a very simple answer and while I imagined myself explaining this to my son, I also imagined his eyes popping out of his head because there were just too many questions and he didn't know where to start.
One thing about B is that he needs details. He needs to understand. It is his life force. Knowing this, I tried to give him as much information as possible to quench his thirst for knowledge, but not too much to open up new questions. Also, we were in the car on the way to school. I only had a few minutes. I decided to compare a growing baby to a plant. "Where do plants come from?" I asked. "SEEDS!" both children replied. Sweet, this is going to be easy. I continue with, "Well, Daddy plants a seed in my belly and then it grows into a baby!" That's it. Plain and simple. Please don't ask any more questions. E was content with the answer, but I could hear B's wheels clanging from all of the spinning that was going on in his head. B says, "Well, how does the seed get INTO your belly?"
Do you REALLY want to know?
I decided to end the conversation with, "B, this is a conversation for another time because it is a little too complicated to explain on our way to school. Save your questions for after school and we can talk about it then." I figured I was safe, at least for a little while. That kid doesn't forget ANYTHING, so I knew it would be coming back to me sooner or later. Unfortunately I forgot about the entire chat, as well the urgency to find some type of book on this topic...until last night.
"Mom, I want to see the seed that Dad plants in your belly to grow a baby."
There HAS to be a good book for him. Interwebs, I will take any suggestion you may have. He is seven and not getting any younger.
3 comments:
Does your church not have any good books about this? the problem is is that you don't have any roosters. If you had them it would be easier to explain. The seed analogy was good. It reminded me when adam asked if he could see my special hole where they baby comes out of. Nope sorry. I will try to recommend a book for you. still a very funny story
My friend recommended "The Amazing You, getting smart about your private parts" that we used with the older girls and their "special talk" we had last year. I really like it (with the exception of a page or two). It is geared towards kids but doesn't sugar coat or dumb anything down to being silly. Very appropriately thorough I thought.
"Where Did I Come From?" by Peter Mayle. Excellent book to help explain the details. Good luck to you...and better to hear it from you than others on the playground!
Post a Comment